A Critical Review of Mending the Wounds of Sexual Addiction Pamela D. McKoy Liberty University

Abstract This critical reappraisal will try to sum up the book “Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction” written by. Dr. Mark R. Laaser. Foregrounding all the cardinal subjects and giving an in-depth analysis of Dr. Laaser’s work on the topic of sexual dependence. It will give his position and grounds to back up it from the book and other beginnings. In this reappraisal you will happen that Dr. Laaser has added valuable penetration to the topic on a personal degree. It will besides demo how Dr. Laaser’s religion comes into drama. being that the book is written from a Christian point of position utilizing a Biblical worldview. This reappraisal will demo that the book can and should be used by ballad and professionals likewise when covering with those who suffer from the hurting and wickedness of sexual dependence. Keywords: sexual dependence. worldview

Drumhead Dr. Mark Lasser’s book “Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction” gives hope for those who are in the throes of sexual dependence and those who suffer with them. Laaser feels that this book is of import because of the hurting and despair that he experienced from sexual dependence ; he now wants to portion what he has learned about the power of the Lord and mending. In this book he relates how sexual dependence has grown to epidemic proportions ( Laaser. 2004. pp. 17 ) . The cyberspace has been the beginning of much of that growing. with a bevy of stuffs of a sexual nature being readily available to everyone with computing machine entree. The cyberspace has merely what they are looking for in the signifier of erotica for sexual satisfaction and release. Those who are non seeking this are besides bombarded with unwanted pop-ups publicizing sexual related stuffs.

Mark Laaser writes about the secret wickedness. it is one frequently times non seen or heard. sexual dependence. He feels that it starts in childhood go oning into adolescence. where it is most clip seen as a normal developmental stage. When the individual reaches adulthood untreated it becomes worse over clip. if left along it could take to decease. He feels that it is an habit-forming disease that has been around since the beginning of clip. It has been misnamed and has gone undiagnosed for centuries. there still is a few who does non believe in its being ( Lasser. 2004. pp. 15 ) . With this book Laaser hopes to turn to this issue with Christians. conveying to the head a job that has plagued the Christian community for 100s of old ages ( Lasser. 2004. pp. 16 ) . This is job that has been whispered about. doing many to go forth their religion and seek other agencies of peace. There is much shame and shame for the individual and their household. so it is hidden from all. With sound aid and instruction the healing procedure starts.

Major subjects of “Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction” are listed below with account: Part 1: What is Sexual Addiction?
Here you will happen that sexual dependence is a wickedness.

That phantasy. erotica and onanism are constructing block behaviours. The types of sexual dependence: cyber. harlotry. colza and incest etc. Understanding and placing features of sexual dependence. Part 2: The Roots of Sexual Addiction ( how and why ) sexual dependence happens. Unhealthy household kineticss: boundaries. regulations. functions and dependences Family maltreatment: emotional. physical. sexual and religious

How sex addicts header with maltreatment: flight and codependency
Part 3: Mending the Wounds of Sexual Addiction
The journey of mending
Confronting the sex nut: one on one intercession and group intercession Treatment issues in sexual dependence

Mending for twosomes: of import and critical issues that face twosomes Part 4: Mending the Wounds of the Church

Sexually addicted Curates and priests: features of their sexual dependence Healing for the folds: primary victims and secondary victims ( Lasser. 2004 ) The information provided in this book is a elaborate expression at the job of dependence and the hope of recovery. Laaser wrote this book to educate the church ( Laaser. 2004. pp. 223 ) .

Analysis Mark Laaser’s point of position is one that comes from enduring from the secret wickedness of sexual dependence and being a Christian basking the life of recovery. He approaches this topic with a Biblical worldview. this is appropriate because we all fall short with wickedness. God offers aid with His Word to interrupt free of dependence in 1 Corinthians. 6:18 it said “Flee fornication. Every wickedness that a adult male doeth is without the organic structure ; but that he committeth fornication sinneth against his ain organic structure ( Bible KVJ ) . In the book “Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction” he exhibits his religion for the readers to see. This in bend makes the Christian comfy plenty to read the text and acquire an apprehension. Many experts have found that 10 % of Christians in America are sexually addicted.

If this is a fact so a fold with 500 members would intend that 50 of them are sex nuts. Experts say that the per centums are on the rise. Two-thirdss of all Christian work forces admitted to watching erotica every bit good as 40 % of Pastors ( Laaser. 2004. pp. 15 ) . The church can no longer disregard this job. households can non duck in shame this has to be addressed and this book is Mark Laaser’s manner of making merely that. Laaser knows that there is no remedy for sexual dependence but expresses that it is an on-going procedure on a twenty-four hours to twenty-four hours footing.

That this is a mending procedure non a remedy. nuts must cover with their devils and have a Religious healing ( Laaser. 2004. pp. 223 ) . This Religious healing is portion of the procedure that Laaser writes about within the church and the portion that they should play. The function of the Christian community is one of healing and hope for those sexually addicted. The church should make an environment of safety. welcome and honestness for them. since sexual dependence is one of loneness. Sexually addicted people need to be held accountable this is another function of the church ( Hinson. 2009. pp. 53 ) . All these positions are shared by Laaser and many others in the Christian community. This is strong grounds that Laaser is on path with this book and his thoughts. When researched “sexual dependence in the Christian community” you will happen that Laaser is a resonant voice which is usage frequently and his positions shared by many. Laaser said to supply support for the sexually addicted is non easy but really accomplishable. To assist the person. he promotes giving them the aid to get the better of inappropriate header mechanism and behaviours. Compassion and empathy must be present in those giving the aid. When covering with the addicted individual. we can non be judgmental or do premises about them. but give them what God gave us. love and credence.

Laaser writes that the nut needs to desire to acquire good before you attempt to assist them. Then you must set up answerability for the nut. a Religious journey of metempsychosis is required to allow old wickedness and self pass off to be able to see a new life. This is a long procedure 1 that takes a life clip of being of all time watchful of your actions. Laaser outlines single and group dependence intercession schemes that are based on a Biblical theoretical account of subject in the Gospel in the book of Matthew. This theoretical account targets the edifice blocks of dependence with a 90 twenty-four hours abstention contract in force ( Laaser. 2004. pp. 149 ) . The result depends wholly on the work that the nut puts into they can mend if they desire it. This book is written in a consecutive forward mode it pulls no clouts and the reader is pulled into the commentary. This is an first-class book for those in demand of information refering to sexual dependence and how to retrieve from it. The reader can about experience the attention and love that went into composing the book even if they are non Christian.

Decision With much research. I have concluded that Laaser is on to something that is heaven sent and fantastic in the field of sexual dependence. He lays his religion and innermost ideas out for all to see. you can see the attention that he took with this book. He writes from the left side of dependence as a individual who has been at that place and knows what it takes to mend. A inactive attack is non the manner that gives us this book nor should we utilize it passively. The information provided in this book is factual. I have a friend who has suffered the injury of sexual dependence and Laaser’s books and theoretical account were used in her intervention. You could candidly see the metempsychosis she had over a class of a twelvemonth. This works and I personally would urge anyone who is enduring or in the field to purchase it and maintain it near. I feel besides that sexual dependence is as a disease where alcohol addiction was 50 old ages ago.

This is non even listed as a status in the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Experts are non in understanding that debatable sexual behaviours should be classified as an dependence. They all seem to hold with Laaser that the behaviours are about shame and low self-pride. I feel that Laaser’s book takes the right tone and attack. one of love. concern and action to cover with the job. This book is offering a solution to mending the healthy Godly manner. I find that the Spiritual facets of the book to be for all who read it. When he associate the narrative about Nehemiah reconstructing Jerusalem after it was destroyed. I saw the correlativity of sexual dependence destructing lives both to be rebuilt by the Lord. All I all it will be my travel to book in my professional calling and I will show it to the church as a tool of counsel for those in demand.

Mentions Laaser. R. M. . ( 2004 ) Mending the Wounds of Sexual Addiction. Zondervan. Grand Rapids. Michigan 49530
Hinson. W. R. & A ; Parker. D. . ( 2009 ) Sexual Addictions: Problems and solutions for the Christian community. 17. 1. Art. 12. Raise