The Importance of Family The value of family seems to be obvious in every culture around the world. After watching the film, Kite Runner and exploring other materials, it is rather noticeable that the value of family is very important to the Afghan culture. The sense of family roots has driven many to do things they otherwise would not have done. Families may be the primary motivators for some people, either as heroic models or as people whom they fear to disappoint. Regardless of what one’s family turns out to be, family is still family.
Many people will go to extreme measures to fulfill a duty that involves family. It may be true that the bond between family members is stronger than any other bond known to man. The value of family unity is apparent when it comes to the child’s growth at a young age. What is less apparent is the influence of family in an individual’s later life. The continual and steady presence of one’s family life has a great influential power and may be one of the greatest factors that determines the type of person they will become. When most think of family, they think of togetherness.
Togetherness brings about a type of unity and bond that you cannot find anywhere else. This idea togetherness was included by being stated that “as far as I can tell, none of my Afghan relatives was ever alone or ever wanted to be” (Ansary). In the Afghan culture, the idea of not being surrounded by family is something that is looked down on. In fact, not being around family is rarely even an option. In the Afghan culture you are always surround by your family. Different cultures suggest different ways in which you are tied to your family.
Some suggest that you should always be around them, while others suggest that one might need a bit of separation to realize the good things they may be missing. The American culture operates similar to that as well, it is said that “we need solitude, because when we’re alone, we’re free from obligations…”(Ansary). Every culture goes about family in a different way, but one thing remains the same, when it comes to family blood is thicker than water. At a very young age culture and our surroundings teach us that we must keep family close.
The thought of family unity many times will make or break a child. If home life is rough due to family separation, the child will be greatly affected. Family ties run deep no matter what culture one is a part of; it just seems to be more evident in the Afghan culture. In the Afghan culture, a dominant sense of the primary importance of family causes children to want nothing more than to impress their parents. To impress one’s parents in any culture much less the Afghan culture may be one of the biggest most proud moments of child’s life. Such is true when the boys win the kite running competition.
Amir wants nothing more than to impress his father and keep the family name alive and strong. He feels as if this was a way to redeem himself to his father. The importance of family in this situation stands out and demonstrates how much the Afghan culture bases itself on family. It is obvious that Amir believes that nothing is more important than his family. This value of family being first, which he learned at a very young age, and making them the most important figures in one’s life carries with Amir throughout his whole life. He never forgets where his roots are and why they are there.
Family was of importance to Amir at a young age and he carried that mentality with him throughout his entire life. The mentality that family comes first does not only apply to just Amir himself, but the entire Afghan culture. Being part of a family in the Afghan culture brings about a meaning of being loved for the rest of your life. No matter what the circumstance a person may encounter there is truly a sense of unconditional love. Little did Amir realize that the importance of family he was taught at a young age would play a significant role later in his life.
Amir goes back for his best friend’s son, and takes him from a very bad situation. He risked a lot to do this, and he would not have done this if it were not for the fact that this boy was family to Amir. That put a completely new twist on things, and after Amir found that out, he knew he could not back down. All his life the Afghan culture had told Amir that family is first. Because of that, he was able to instantly make the situation that family indeed needed to come first. No matter what society one may live in, there is a constant pressure to be a part of a certain group.
Family provides the comfort of being a part of something. This family setting will determine what type of person someone will become. In many cases, it is a family first situation. It has been a way of their culture since they can remember, and it will always be that way. The reason many cultures are able to keep this going is that everyone is taught and surround by this family first mentality beginning at a very young age. It is hard to get away from being surrounded by family in the Afghan community, which proves to not be a bad thing whatsoever.
The constant surrounding of family will shape someone to become the person they will be later in life. Even when the constant involvement of cultural family life is no longer present, one will still carry out values in which they learned from their family. Works Cited Ansary, Mir Tamim. West of Kabul, East of New York: An Afghan American Story. New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2002. Print. The Kite Runner. Dir. Marc Forster. Prod. William Horberg, Walter F. Parkes, RebecYeldham, and E. Bennett Walsh. By David Benioff. Perf. Khalid Abdalla and Homayoun Ershadi. Paramount Vantage, 2007.